A kind word can warm three winter months, while a harsh word can freeze six summer months.

A kind word can warm three winter months, while a harsh word can freeze six summer months. The meaning of this proverb is that kind words are like the winter sun, warming the heart even in the cold; harsh words are like the cold wind in June, making one feel chilled even in the hottest weather. From the 108 Sayings of the late Master Sheng Yen: Think before you speak, pause for half a beat before talking. It's not about not speaking, but about cherishing your words and speaking cautiously. Buddhism also advocates for verbal generosity, often saying that speaking good words, comforting words, and gentle, soft language can make people feel warm and comforted. Speaking ill is the worst; it actually hurts both the speaker and the listener, as it creates negative karma. Even if there's no immediate retribution, it can anger the other person and bring trouble upon oneself. Therefore, we should speak more good words. This helps build good relationships, reduces friction, and is much better than arguing with people all day, leaving both parties feeling bad. Is that really better?