(Rant Warning) My Husband...

He says he lacks physical affection, but he doesn't really help with putting the kids to sleep (just lies there on his phone, which I don't consider help). When I try to talk to him, he seems sleepy, and sometimes he talks down to me. He never says thank you for things like cooking meals or taking care of the kids while I'm out. When he finally has free time after the kids are asleep, he goes to another room to stay up late building Gunpla, watching YouTube, or anime. He doesn't do the things I ask him to do until the very last minute (why not do them while he's playing at night?). And sometimes, he goes out around the time I'm putting the kids to bed (it's a rural area, so the only place is a net cafe, and he's still not back). Does he really think I'd want physical affection from him with all this going on? By the way, if I mention the above, he either sulks or gets defensive, saying something like, 'I'm trying my best to find enjoyment and being patient (even without physical affection), so why are you getting upset/snapping at me?' It's incredibly annoying. Our child is still young, but I often think I might not be able to live with him forever. I don't dislike him, but he's just so tiresome.