Are 'Street Food' Gifts Disrespectful? A Taro Dessert Reveals a Value Gap - Bomb Report

I saw this post on Bomb Report. It was my first time visiting my boyfriend's family, so I brought famous taro desserts and snacks from Dajia, intending to share local specialties for an afternoon tea. However, the elders complained, 'Why are you eating this before dinner?' It ended up being thrown straight into the trash, and I was told, 'Bringing street food is disrespectful.' This incident isn't so much about the snacks being disrespectful as it is about the differing perceptions of 'etiquette' between the two parties. To the elders, the first meeting was a formal occasion, and proper gift boxes, fruits, and souvenirs would be considered 'presentable.' Even if street food is famous, it can easily be labeled as casual or informal. Plus, since it was close to mealtime, they might have felt it was difficult to accommodate. But no matter how much they disagreed, they shouldn't have thrown away what the girlfriend specially brought. What was thrown away wasn't just food, but the girlfriend's thoughtfulness and respect. The girlfriend's issue was relying too much on her boyfriend for information. Her boyfriend saying 'she might like taro' doesn't mean his parents would expect that kind of offering; if it had been a packaged taro pastry gift box, the perception might have been different. And the most crucial person is the boyfriend: he didn't give a heads-up beforehand, and afterward, he only passively confessed, failing to act as a bridge between his girlfriend and his family. So, bringing local specialty snacks isn't necessarily disrespectful in itself. What's disrespectful is not considering the occasion, the packaging, or the elders' expectations; what's even more disrespectful is responding to someone's thoughtfulness with a trash can. If a relationship can't even coordinate basic respect, then the first and last time might not be a regret, but a timely realization. I think they should break up. Seeing how the boyfriend's family acted, they clearly don't like her, and the boyfriend didn't stand up for her or show responsibility, so it's best to just let her go and break up!