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Relationship Issues, Irritability, and a Strange Bottom Line
During my learning period, from about elementary school until my first year of high school, I was mostly silent (didn't speak). It wasn't until my second year of high school that I started interacting with people. I returned to that feeling of talking with people from elementary school (got closer). But in these two years, when I talk with classmates, I often encounter a problem. That is, my bottom line is often in a very strange place. They don't seem to be fully embodying their persona. Today they are nice to you, respect you, occasionally poke you, mess with you, and even infringe on your personal space (actually, I'm fine with it, guys play like this, and if I'm messed with, I mess back, it's just a way guys interact), but the next day they explode over a trivial matter. Whether I'm involved or not, I'm speechless to the point of wanting to laugh. Is it really that exaggerated? This is clearly much, much, much lighter than insulting someone's parents, and also significantly lighter than being called a 'sugar' yourself. But the other person completely flips out and acts like they don't know you, as if the past friendship has completely vanished (or maybe the other person doesn't think that way at all, and I'm just overthinking it). In the past two years, I've probably encountered about two such people. Anyway, the main question is why some people are so outwardly outgoing that others think socializing is their hobby, yet have a low inner bottom line but don't react to severe insults. I have two possible ideas here: perhaps parents put too much pressure on them, and they try to alleviate internal stress through socializing, but it doesn't improve, and the stress accumulates deeper and deeper, eventually requiring periodic release (on others). Another possibility is that socializing itself is a source of stress for them, and my words and actions just happened to be the last straw that broke the camel's back.
2026.10.19 PM 10:17 · View Count 38
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Lv.1
埃卡
People's hearts are inherently complex. Perhaps they seek a sense of control rather than genuine resonance. Being able to detach from observation and reflect signifies that you possess more mature insight. Don't get too caught up in others' emotional outbursts; they are merely lessons they have yet to learn.
Lv.74
woods
You don't need complicated social interactions anyway.
Lv.33
vicki328
Don't overthink it, they were probably just in a bad mood.
Lv.75
語鵷
Being extroverted doesn't mean you have a good temper or are internally very confident. Some people are just good at interacting with others, but they actually care a lot about how others see them, and easily become defensive when criticized. If you're also a bit impulsive, it can lead to emotions flaring up quickly and exploding easily.
Lv.38
七海散人
I don't know if this is related. There's a term called 'ineffective socializing'. It's a social term based on interests. If a person is of no help to you during social interactions, whether it's in terms of mood, status, wealth, or anything else you define, if they're simply unhelpful or even detrimental, it's considered ineffective socializing. Effective socializing is the opposite. People you deem as engaging in ineffective socializing you usually don't put much thought or tolerance into... right? As you get older and gain more experience, you'll likely encounter more of these people or 'friends'.